Love this little animation!
Fall is here and it’s lovely out! Puppies, pregnant ladies and lovers everywhere you look. Why do we find certain people attractive? What does picking them (sometimes, over and over again…) do for us?
Here’s an article by the great Diane Ackerman explaining the ideas of Drs. Dan Siegel and Allan Schore. Fascinating. And optimistic!
How do you understand the choices you make in this light?
I’d be interested to hear.
Here is a wonderful explanation of EMDR by Francine Shapiro. Check it out!
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Ardmore, PA 19003
I read this poem a lot in session and thought that I would share it here with you:
For the Interim Time by John O’Donohue
When near the end of day, life has drained
Out of light, and it is too soon
For the mind of night to have darkened things,
No place looks like itself, loss of outline
Makes everything look strangely in-between,
Unsure of what has been, or what might come.
In this wan light, even trees seem groundless.
In a while it will be night, but nothing,
Here seems TO believe the relief of dark.
You are in this time of the interim
Where everything seems withheld.
The path you took to get here has washed out;
The way forward is still concealed from you.
“The old is not old enough to have died away;
The new is still too young to be born.”
You cannot lay claim to anything;
In this place of dusk,
Your eyes are blurred;
And there is no mirror.
Everyone else has lost sight of your heart
And you can see nowhere to put your trust;
You know you have to make your own way through.
As far as you can, hold your confidence.
Do not allow your confusion to squander
This call which is loosening
Your roots in false ground,
That you might come free
From all you have outgrown.
What is being transfigured here is your mind,
And it is difficult and slow to become new.
The more faithfully you can endure here,
The more refined your heart will become
For you arrival in the new dawn.
Do you occasionally find yourself going down the sorry and sorrowful ‘low-road’ in life? This is when you become so angry or scared in the face of challenge, disagreement or other difficulties that you can’t work out a solution. Of course you can’t work out a solution at the time! You’ve become either too shut down or too reactive to do so. It can be such a quick and slippery slope. You may find yourself on it before you even realize it!
How to get off the track and have more resources at hand to bring to bear to the problem? The answer is remarkably simple!! Breathe. Through Mindful Breathing, you can regain your ability to soothe yourself. To soothe your limbic system which may be on high alert. You aren’t able to think your best if your brain is not on your team, right? You lose your ability to know what you are feeling beneath the anger or the fear (anxiety) because biologically, you are ready to fight or flee to safety. Mindful Breathing helps you to remember that the ‘other’ is not the ‘enemy’ but someone who you might actually love. Or at least someone you like enough to work out the issue with. When we practice Mindful Breathing, we can gain the ability to see the activity of our mind with a sense of detachment. This observing perspective is thought to enable us to grow integrative fibers in our middle prefrontal cortex. This is good because then we have an increased ability to regulate ourselves. Here is the list of the scientifically proven outcomes of mindfulness practice. I believe it is a list of what defines ‘health’:
Bodily Regulation, Attuned Communication, Emotional Regulation, Response Flexibility, Fear Modulation, Insight, Empathy and Morality!
Wow. So how about you take one minute. ONE MINUTE! to follow your breath….on the in and the out…and pay attention to the places in between….just bring yourself back to your breath when your mind provides sensations, images, thoughts, feelings, to distract you. The mind is very, very busy!! That is what it does. Just bring yourself back without judgment. With gentle loving kindness towards yourself for doing this.
Give it a go now. Let me know what it’s like for you.
I love Billy Collins. But I love Billy Collins best here where the sound and shape of the words are the delight of a three-year old. Litany by Billy Collins
I have been thinking about what stops us from experiencing delight. What stops you?
It is through our awareness of our sensations, images, feelings and thoughts that we can appreciate what the world has to offer. And it is through our breath that we can be most easily become aware of what we are experiencing. I find that when I stop breathing, my awareness of my experience is not available to me. Then I am shut out of the bounty of information that my body and my experience in the world has to help me navigate the world. Dr. Dan Siegel says we should SIFT through our experience. By paying attention to our sensations, images, feelings and thoughts, we can SIFT the mind and open our perception to what is. When we do this, we can open ourselves to the experience of delight.
If I am the moon in the trees, who are you?